Ten requests of a person with dementia. Patricia Parker Ireland
Please…. Be patient with me. Remember I am the helpless victim of an organic brain disease that is totally beyond my control.
Talk to me….Even though I cannot always answer you, I can hear your voice and sometimes I comprehend your words.
Be kind to me…..For each day of my life is a long and desperate struggle. Your kindness may be the most special, important event of my day.
Consider my feelings…..For they are still very much alive within me.
Treat me with dignity and respect….As I would have gladly treated you if you had been the victim lying in this bed.
Remember my past…….For I was once a healthy, vibrant person full of life, love and laughter.
Remember my present..….. I am still a devoted spouse, parent and grandparent who misses my family very much and thinks often of them.
Remember my future…..Though it may seem bleak to you I am always filled with the hope of tomorrow.
Pray for me…… For I am a person who lingers in the mists that linger between time and eternity. Your prayers may do more for me than any other outreach of compassion you could do to me.
Love me…..And the gift of love you give will be a blessing from God that will fill both our lives with light forever. Patricia Parker Ireland